How do I heal in my relationships?

Jun 03, 2021
 

Here are the two simple and sacred practices you can do for literally 5 mins to re-centre you and transform all your relationships.

This is how we heal ourselves and stand in our authentic Feminine Maturity in the world.

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Give yourself permission to ask for what you want

May 07, 2021

There are times in all our relationships, personal and professional, where things build up. Unmet needs or overbearing demands congeal into resentments, and we can get overwhelmed. I have noticed that the first indication that things are building up, is that I start to complain a lot to my friends and beloved. I complain about how other people are not doing what I think they should, or are deliberately thwarting my happiness! If I don’t attend to what is bugging me, in a way that it can be resolved, then I can get very stuck. I start to shut down, and withdraw from the person I am upset with. I may then aggressively push back when other innocent people ask me to do things, or collapse into tears at the end of the day and feeling like I am ‘failing’ at life.

A complaint often masks a desire or need, one we don’t feel we can directly ask for. Some part of us feels unsafe to ask, so we create a barrier and don’t fully express ourselves. The physical and...

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Never make a man uncomfortable, and other useless advice

May 07, 2021

Over the last month, power dynamics in relationships has been a hot topic for my clients. In particular, women have been describing what I call ‘the command’, where a man instructs a woman about what she should be doing. I know for myself, this immediately shuts down my body and my heart. And it is difficult to transition from these interactions into more sensual and sexual spaces. So, what is going on here between men and women in romantic relationships?

Let’s talk about The Command

Often the command is not so much about the words but the tone. “Could you move please” is not a polite request, but instead has an insistent and aggressive tone. In my own relationship, I find this dynamic can come up around a physical task.

Recently my beloved and I hired bicycles. As we started to mount up, I felt he was instructing me about what I should be doing, rather than sharing helpful information. He was definitely in his command tone. Let’s talk about my...

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The World Does Not Need More Frantic Women

May 07, 2021

For the last couple of months, I have driven myself crazy creating relentless promotion and event deadlines (not to mention cash outlays). My daily demands (laments) were that I needed to promote my Finding Freedom with Chronic Illness course for women living from serious illness. I also needed to promote my Relationship Workshop. I needed to get along to some networking events. I needed to get some new branding, and I absolutely had to hire a graphic designer! My business was going to flail and fail without one. Why? Well one of my big assumptions was that I could not promote my course to a breast cancer organisations without an engaging flyer.

Under the weight of these “must do’s” I became anxious, overwhelmed, edgy and to be honest I wasn’t a lot of fun to be around. Does this sound familiar? OK, you may not need a graphic designer, but I am sure you have a list of things you just have to do before you can...

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Treats and Tantrums: Is your inner child running your life?

May 07, 2021

I like to think of myself as a mature adult. However, I know I make decisions and have reactions that are shall we say, are not the most mature option available.

I have come to understand how all too frequently it is either my inner child or inner teenager actually ‘running’ parts of my life like my dating and relating, or my finances. 

Play and fun

Of course the smaller voices, the vulnerable as well as joyous, playful parts of the child are present within all of us. There is great beauty in the innocence and even some of the scheming of the inner teenager who really just wants to have fun!

I don’t want to stifle these parts of myself, but I do want to know they are not making critical decisions in my life. Therefore, it is useful to have some awareness and discernment of when they have the ‘wheel’ steering my life at any moment. Otherwise, a crash is usually just around the corner no matter how much hooning along my child or teenage parts think...

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Chasing More: the Anxiety Spiral

May 07, 2021

We often think about where we want to be – the next career move, next apartment, next loving romantic partner or the next time we fit into a size 10 dress. Once we get there, then things will be fine, ‘I will be less anxious, less stressed and much more relaxed!’

Once we achieve what we feel we are so desperately lacking, then like magic all this anxiety will fall away. However, sadly, this approach can create an abiding anxiety that seems to haunt us in our daily lives.

We try to cope with this daily anxiety as best we can. We may numb it out with shopping, alcohol, staying busy socially and over-working. When we do this, we are often numbing a range of deeper emotions as well. Sadness, grief, longing for love, security and even joy can go get buried in our tense stomach or aching shoulders.

In the face of all of this, we might even collapse under the emotional and physical pressure and then we have permission to turn the world off for a day or a week. Often our...

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Podcast: Building Authentic Relationships at Work

May 07, 2021
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Michelle Irving
Podcast: Building Authentic Relationships at Work
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Building Authentic Relationships at Work

Rebranding Safety Host James interviews Michelle about building authentic relationships at work, feminine maturity and being able to stand in your own power. Plus navigating those awkward conversations when you are working from home.  

We also cover trust, visibility, masculinity and relationship wellbeing.

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Podcast: Queen of the Underworld. Life, Love and Bedrest

May 03, 2021
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Michelle Irving
Podcast: Queen of the Underworld. Life, Love and Bedrest
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Queen of the Underworld. Life, Love and Bedrest

I was delighted to be interviewed by the gorgeous Monica Michelle, host of the utterly brilliant podcast Explicitly Sick. We had a very honest discussion about chronic illness, love, life and expectations from bed rest.

 

Much love, 

Michelle xx

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Mastering Maturity: 6 Keys to finding your inner adult

May 03, 2021

In our culture women are not encouraged to be in their authentic, mature feminine self. Most of us don’t even know what that would feel like. Yet it is possible stand in your natural power, and be the adult in your own life.

Being a mature feminine woman is heady stuff, and not for the faint-hearted. It takes some growing up, and being accountable. The upside is, it brings you more freedom in your relationships, more choices, and the capacity to feel a lot more joy. So how do you get there?

1. Admit you shut down and lose your voice.

The first thing you need to do is admit you do shut down and lose your voice. It’s hard to admit this, and much more difficult to accept. And yet, when you take this step, you are on the way back to your natural power. This is the first thread you start to pull and follow, and it will lead you back to when your voice shut down, and ultimately how to speak up for yourself.

In my own family I felt like the only people...

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Podcast: Ease and Intuition

May 03, 2021
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Michelle Irving
Podcast: Ease and Intuition
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Ease and Intuition

I am not here to rescue.

This has been one of the greatest lessons for me as part of my personal Feminine Maturity. I loved talking with Annie, host of Rebel Therapist – a podcast for therapist entrepreneurs.

This is a behind the scenes look at how and why I created the Finding Feminine Maturity online course. Plus why mythology is part of my process.

We also talk about why intuitive guidance is the most practical tool you have for connecting with others.

Much love, 

Michelle xx

 

 

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